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    Are you afraid of dying ?

    Recently, i was thinking about the fact that i could have a heart attack at any moment and die, it is a real possibility, even
    though i am only 30 years old.

    It frightens me a little to think this could happen. Then i was thinking about death and the fact i would not know i was dead, it
    is a very bizzaire concept to try and wrap my head around.

    Not sure where i am going with this to be honest. I was just wondering what people think about death and the fact that
    we are aware of our own mortality, and does it frighten you at all ?
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    I am not afraid of dying, I am afraid of my children dying. That really bothers me.

    I don't have most accurate and effective method of risk assessment at my disposal. I seem to be defective in that regard.
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    No.

    What does make me somewhat afraid is how I'm going to die.

    Everyone wants to "go" peacefully and without pain. Many don't.

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    As far as dying, there's no stopping it. The secret of life is to live each day as best you can , and when your time comes to pass, you will have no regrets.

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    The acceptance of the inevitabilty makes it obvious that every day is important. As King Charles said (approximately) " the prospect of death in the morning concentrates the mind wonderfully" so the certain knowledge does nag at wasted time, but as someone else said the trick is to be sure at the end which was the wasted time. Tommorrow I may be myself with yesterday's seven thousand years.... so fill the cup that cheers- another mangled quote, that one from the Rubaiyat. as is... One thing is certain, that life flies, one thing is certain, the rest is lies. ... Reasons to be cheerful? Life is a great adventure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    I was just wondering what people think about death and the fact that
    we are aware of our own mortality, and does it frighten you at all ?
    I think it's just "the end", and don't fear that at all. I'm somewhat worried how my absence would affect others close to me.

    And what Solfe and Buttercup said.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    Recently, i was thinking about the fact that i could have a heart attack at any moment and die, it is a real possibility, even
    though i am only 30 years old.

    It frightens me a little to think this could happen. Then i was thinking about death and the fact i would not know i was dead, it
    is a very bizzaire concept to try and wrap my head around.

    Not sure where i am going with this to be honest. I was just wondering what people think about death and the fact that
    we are aware of our own mortality, and does it frighten you at all ?
    What you are experiencing is the extremely strong survival instinct humans have developed.
    "There are powers in this universe beyond anything you know. There is much you have to learn. Go to your homes. Go and give thought to the mysteries of the universe. I will leave you now, in peace." --Galaxy Being

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    Dying itself? No.

    Not fulfilling what I want to do in the time allotted: definitely.

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    I've contemplated suicide pretty much every day of my life since, oh I dunno, about 1985. I have gone over in my head every single conceivable method of ending a life, and envisioned every possible physical and emotional outcome. I haven't done it yet. I suppose that means I'm afraid of dying.

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    I would like to amend my statement after reading other peoples posts: Pain bothers me a lot; not getting things done bothers me.

    Not getting all I want to do done, then pain ,then death would bother me. I try not to think about it much.

    I used to play a game that when you died would send a message in response to attempted actions:
    "You are dead, you must await rescue..."

    If you tried too many times the messaging would change to:
    "You are obviously bored and dead. It could be worse, you could be bored and in pain."
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    Quote Originally Posted by parallaxicality View Post
    I've contemplated suicide pretty much every day of my life since, oh I dunno, about 1985. I have gone over in my head every single conceivable method of ending a life, and envisioned every possible physical and emotional outcome. I haven't done it yet. I suppose that means I'm afraid of dying.
    My personal suicidal ideation goes back almost that far; the fact that I haven't done it, I do not attribute to fear. I attribute it to the fact that I generally want to live more than I want to die. Not to mention the fact that, when I'm depressed enough to consider suicide, I'm usually too depressed to move. As others have said, it's pain that worries me, and the prospect of my daughter dying, and things along those lines. My own death doesn't scare me; I adjusted to the idea that it would happen in 1983, when my dad died and nothing I could do would change that. The only thing which really worries me about my own death is the impact it will have on those around me. Everything else is just fear of pain, which is healthy and natural.
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    I don't particularly fear dying. I do worry about getting old and infirm. My wife and I have spent the last seven years looking after elderly parents. We have no children. My wife's health is not very good so I'm likely to wind up looking after her. Who's going to take care of me?
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    Having witnessed death it isn't something I'm afraid of, how I die is a concern though.
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    I'm not afraid to die. I'm afraid to live past my quality of life. I'm terrified to live beyond my ability to die on my own terms.

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    I'm not so much afraid of dying as saddened at the prospect of not seen more of the Story. Humanity could be on the cusp of some huge changes, changes that could potentially change in radical way what it means to be human, whether space will remain the final frontier or if it will be expanded into as a new home for humanity, or a new resource to be exploited.
    I want to see how this all turns out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    Recently, i was thinking about the fact that i could have a heart attack at any moment and die....
    I had that stark realization at one time, too. I learned that an occasional premature ventricular contraction was common and nothing to worry about. Serious heart malfunctions don't typically happen out of the blue. Unless there's a history of heart problems, it would be highly unlikely. Even if there are heart problems, medical and pharmaceutical technologies these days are pretty sophisticated...

    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    I was just wondering what people think about death and the fact that we are aware of our own mortality, and does it frighten you at all ?
    Well, yeah, i don't want to die. Life is the ultimate "trip." Death is something to be avoided. But everybody dies. That doesn't mean you shouldn't give death a reasonable fight. But it's not something to obsess about, either. Living is too valuable to waste it worrying about dying.
    Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not his own facts.

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    I take a vitamin called CoQ 10 each day. It is very good for your heart muscles. Be good to your body and prosper.
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    Quote Originally Posted by danscope View Post
    I take a vitamin called CoQ 10 each day.
    Thanks Dan, i will look into that. I do take daily vitamins so another can not do any harm !

    Actually, i am not scared of death so much but as other people have mentioned, i do not want to be in pain. But as also mentioned above
    i guess that is a natural thought process.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    I was just wondering what people think about death and the fact that
    we are aware of our own mortality, and does it frighten you at all ?
    Yes, I am extremely afraid of death; it is almost certainly my single greatest fear. It is the no-longer-existing that scares me the most. I have spent untold nights awake about it since I was in my early teens.
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    But Swift, once we're no longer existing we won't know it.

    Raven's Cry:
    I'm not so much afraid of dying as saddened at the prospect of not seen more of the Story. Humanity could be on the cusp of some huge changes, changes that could potentially change in radical way what it means to be human, whether space will remain the final frontier or if it will be expanded into as a new home for humanity, or a new resource to be exploited.
    I want to see how this all turns out.
    I wouldn't want to see how it ALL turns out, but I am glad to have been young during the transition from the Space Age to the Digital Age.

    I think of a handful of people my age who died, say, around 1993; they missed so much. And just barely missed it!

    My one desire is to see a human mission to Mars before I die. I'll be very disappointed if that doesn't happen in my lifetime.

    Otherwise? I'm ready to check out at a certain age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buttercup View Post

    My one desire is to see a human mission to Mars before I die. I'll be very disappointed if that doesn't happen in my lifetime.
    We got folks working on that.

    When young, I used to think that I was the only person who liked Star Trek. It was special in a pre-internet age. I once thought (in the pre-internet age) that a storm-chasing movie would be cool. Then we got blogs and the movie TWISTER.

    Now, I know that if I pass on, I won't be missed. There are others who will have interests in the same things. It makes one less unique, yes--but it is comforting all the same...

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    If someone knows an alternative, I'm all ears.

    I'm not afraid of death, I just don't look forward to it. With any luck, it will come quickly and painlessly, although a little warning so I can say my goodbyes would be nice.

    I hope there's an afterlife and I really want there to be a Rainbow Bridge. But if there's not, I'll never know.
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    WE, thats you and I. Can not avoid the end of life we call death.

    Not passing on, not going to the other side, not fading away.

    DEATH. final and ending. A little honesty by all is apparent. None of are keen on the idea.

    but, I am sure a understanding can be arrived at.

    That a time comes for us all when life becomes such misery that death becomes a relief.

    A failing hart or a advanced overaggressive cancer and many other predicaments can leed us to Death.

    Accidental or deliberate death must be separated as life's the prevailing option I cherish..

    I do not want for death. I enjoy life and living so much. However I can imagine as seen first hand the

    prolonged suffering of the sick and dieing.. It can be very ugly. A want to avoid such is natural..

    The final act of life is death. A may not like it., but its there and can not be avoided.

    Except that, and enjoy as best you can, LIFE. Live it. Share it. Love it.

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    There remains a subtle influence from the good side of the force which lingers after our passing unto those who would welcome it's influence. It may appear irrational and removed from scientific proof and certainly not universally understood.
    But amoung those who love and those who have been loved, there are sometimes felt an influence we can't really explain. And to anyone else, remains meaningless, but within one's heart gives comfort and hope. There is more to the universe than is dreamt of in our philosophy, like the Bard said.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jim View Post
    I hope there's an afterlife and I really want there to be a Rainbow Bridge.
    I have conflicted feelings about this. If there is a next life and it's NICE...yes.

    Otherwise? Speaking only for myself of course, if once I'm dead "that's it," I wouldn't mind.

    Probably a lot of individual hope vs apathy towards the concept of a next life has to do with how much the individual has enjoyed this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buttercup View Post

    Raven's Cry:

    I wouldn't want to see how it ALL turns out, but I am glad to have been young during the transition from the Space Age to the Digital Age.

    I think of a handful of people my age who died, say, around 1993; they missed so much. And just barely missed it!

    My one desire is to see a human mission to Mars before I die. I'll be very disappointed if that doesn't happen in my lifetime.

    Otherwise? I'm ready to check out at a certain age.
    Well, I've seen how 2001 and 2010 actually turned out and I could potentially live to see 2061, but it is unlikely I'll see 3001.
    Am I selfish to want to?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ravens_cry View Post
    Well, I've seen how 2001 and 2010 actually turned out and I could potentially live to see 2061, but it is unlikely I'll see 3001.
    Am I selfish to want to?
    No, not at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Swift View Post
    Yes, I am extremely afraid of death; it is almost certainly my single greatest fear. It is the no-longer-existing that scares me the most. I have spent untold nights awake about it since I was in my early teens.
    I have similar feelings. I have an anxiety disorder and I'm a naturally thoughtful person, so that's probably not surprising. For some reason, it makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone in worrying about death and feeling uncertain about what (if anything) comes after... all of humanity is in this together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kevin1981 View Post
    Thanks Dan, i will look into that. I do take daily vitamins so another can not do any harm !
    Not true. You can overdose on vitamins just like anything else, and most vitamins are better gotten from food than pills.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gillianren View Post
    Not true. You can overdose on vitamins just like anything else, and most vitamins are better gotten from food than pills.
    It is okay, I only take 1 multi vitamin a day
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