First off, this is not a huge fight; more of a playful disagreement between my boyfriend and I. At this point, I am not sure if he is intentionally being obtuse or if he is really that clueless when women are hitting on him.
A little clarification; a new woman started working at the front desk in his building, about six months ago. To be perfectly honest, I didn't like her from the start because she's about 5' 10" and probably weighs less than a hundred pounds. Mr. Closetgeek (hopefully someday) has brought back comments that she's said, "I try but no matter how much I eat, I can't seem to gain any weight...hee hee." Yes it makes me resentful because if I so much as look at a donut, my pants tighten.
I have picked up on a few things that might suggest that she is flirting, he's told me that Monday mornings, he finds himself standing in the open door, trying to get back to where his office is and she goes on and on about her wild weekend, oblivious to the fact that he isn't even remotely interested. It could mean something, it might not. Even if it does mean something, men and women flirt sometimes, even when they really don't care for any follow up. However, after six months of working there, she still can't seem to get the phone system down and I am starting to think she is intentionally locking up the system just so he has to come up front to fix it. He says she is very flighty but agrees that by now, she should have gotten the hang of it. It's really not that complicated.
She really got under my skin, once, when a work friend was using his lunch break to help us and we were going to repay him by buying his lunch. As they were walking out the door, she apparently made a joke, of sexual nature, suggesting what the three of us were really doing with our lunch break. I found it offensive.
Now for the meat of the issue; My boyfriend got a new car, last weekend, the new Camaro 2SS; something he's been talking/drooling over, for the past year. He took it to work on Monday and gave two people a ride in it; his direct boss and a fellow Camaro enthusiast. He told me, last night, that despite the fact that he's told her, "No," on multiple occassions, she continues to beg him to take her for a ride. He insists that the reasons for not taking her are based on a) knowing how I would react (which I love him for) and b) knowing how people at work would react (some people live for juicy gossip). I feel the persistant request in indicative of something more. While she may not intend on jumping him, inside the car, I think she is pushing for the opportunity to be alone with him. He says I am overly suspicious... true, but I am also a woman, I know how we tend to work. It's just a car, seriously. Stop making such a big deal like you are suddenly the rabid camaro enthusiast. So what do you think? Is, "please can I have a ride in your car..." and aggressive flirt or is sitting the the passenger seat of someone else's car, really that gratifying?
Just a conclusion, skip if you wish...
I ended up driving him to work this morning because they are doing sandblasting and he doesn't want any accidents. I told him to tell her, "Thanks a lot! I told my girlfriend about you constantly asking me and now she won't even let me drive my own car to work." He laughed and said he was going to, but I don't know if he really will. I did make a suggestion, though, a resolution that would make everyone happy. When I pick him up, today, I will bring his car and step out to let her have a ride. That way, I am there and she has to look me in the eye; recognize me as a human being and not some mindless competition, void of feelings. People at his job will see me, not think this is something done on the sneak, and at least slow the rumor mill. Finally, he can get her off his back and stop the begging. Everyone wins. He's game and it all depends on opportunity.
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Originally Posted by Fazor
Yet another form of double standard.